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The Anchor of My Life

609I have been a home owner since I was 18 years old. It's not that I was privileged, I just never understood the concept of renting when a house payment was the same or less than rent. My first home (pictured above) was a tiny 600 square foot one bedroom home with an even smaller basement apartment that I rented out for the same amount as my house payment... less one dollar.

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My next home was over four times that size which was huge for a single man but I got it dirt cheap and I had plenty of time to fix it up. By the time I left that home (about 6 years later) I had a wife and we had two kids born to us. I sold that home for more than ten times what I paid for it but again, I had put plenty of sweat equity into it. 

 

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 My 3rd and current home was similar to my first home when I purchased it, very small. With a wife and two infants I knew we would have just a short time to add space to the home but we liked the house and location so moving into a bigger home never crossed our

minds. As the title of my post implies our home has been an anchor for our family.

Stability has always been important to me. Jobs change. Relationships change. It's nice to have something stable in our lives and especially in our children's lives. In our case, in particular, it was especially important with a child on the autism spectrum. Children with any degree of autism have a hard time with change. One thing our child could count on was where we lived and that mom, dad, and his sister would be there for him.

Those of you who know me know we (the Timm family) had a huge decision to make in 2011. 2011 was the year that a flood inundated out home and filled it with murky, muddy water up to the ceiling for a period of an entire month. The decision was do we take the insurance money and run or do we rebuild?

Every home owner is faced with making repairs and doing routine maintenance but a total rebuild seldom happens to most home owners. Repairs and maintenance is often enough for some people to opt for renting but having a flood destroy your home and 80% of your possessions is a whole new animal.

While the flood certainly disrupted our "stability" for a total of 9 months the home remained an anchor. It kept us together as we worked side by side to rebuild our home and it kept us together with the great hope and dreams that we would soon have something even better in the same neighborhood the kids grew up in and the neighborhood we truly loved.

HOME to me means stability, security, memories, and a place for the children to return to after they have left the nest. As the old saying goes, materials make a house but LOVE makes a home. It's good to be home.

 This post was created for Debe Maxwell, CRS 's Homeownership - An ActiveRain Challenge - June 2019.

 

 

 

 

 

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Comment balloon 21 commentsBob "RealMan" Timm • June 30 2019 12:10PM

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Good afternoon Bob. That is certainly dedication to location. The wife and I have moved 9 times in 42 years with the longest stay 17 years! Like your way better. Enjoy your day 

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) 22 days ago

What a lovely retrospective of your home ownership history!  I really enjoyed reading your story Bob.  A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) 22 days ago

That stability factor is huge to me Wayne Martin . I always accumulate way to much stuff to move if I don't have to. 

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 22 days ago

Thank you A of Ron and Alexandra Seigel , as you know that means a lot to me.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 22 days ago

Hi Bob... I always envy those who stay in a house for so long. Definitely not the story of my life. Between 1989 and 2006, I lived in 8 different houses. And I loved all of them. We moved to Charlotte in 1998 and by 2006 I was in my third house, the second one I'd built from the ground up. We've now been in our current home 13 years, but I have no doubt there will be another move in my life at some point... it's a disease, I think, all this moving.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage ) 22 days ago

Yes, home is an anchor. Every now and then we talk about selling - maybe going to a milder climate where we don't have to shovel snow. But we stay. Our roots run deep.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 22 days ago

Loved your story, Bob and like you, I didn't ever want to rent, nor did it ever make a bit of sense to me. Figure out how to buy a small house and VOILA! 

I know you are thrilled that you chose renovation after the flood - those 9 months were certainly worth maintaining that anchor in you and your family's lives.

Thank you for your entry in June's challenge, Bob!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 22 days ago

Maybe we could make that next move together Nina Hollander .

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 22 days ago

While living with ones mother-in-law for 9 months would not have been every mans dream Debe Maxwell, CRS  we were sure glad she had three open bedrooms available to us. I was really sweet to move back into our totally renovated home in the end as well. It's now time to renovate again after 8 years of family living.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 22 days ago

Bob "RealMan" Timm , Good afternoon .  Those sentiments are mine. I never wanted to rent. I traded up but stayed in our current home over30 years. 

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 22 days ago

Morning Bob.

I had to count them up, but right now I believe we are in number 7.  Just FYI, we're looking again.  Hopefully, if we find the right home it will be our last.

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) 22 days ago

Bob "RealMan" Timm Love your entry into the contest. Great analogy with home and anchor. Living with your mother in law for 9 months speaks volumes about you and your family. Thanks for sharing your story.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) 21 days ago

What a wonderful story. I think it's great that you loved that location so much you decided to rebuilt. Great!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com) 21 days ago

I believe you and I share many of the same values Grant Schneider . The home I'm in will most likely be my last BUT I'd love to buy a motorhome and tour the country every winter.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 21 days ago

I assume you will stay in the area that you are in James Dray but where ever you are I'd love to come visit you soon.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 21 days ago

Thank you Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland . Living with my mother in law was a blessing to everyone. She has passed on now but I will always have pleasant memories of her, many thanks to that stay. She was a person who truly lived her faith.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 21 days ago

Kat Palmiotti when we were looking at homes I was very concerned about this neighborhood of very modest homes mixed with some commercial realty but as you note, we quickly fell in love with it.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 21 days ago

Hello Bob "RealMan" Timm,  I wish the young people would think more like you did when you were 18.  Happy 4th of July!

Posted by Will Hamm, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!" (Hamm Homes) 18 days ago

Hello Bob - I enjoyed and was impressed by your story/post.  There's much that is revealed about you here.  Good job.  

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 15 days ago

Thank you Will Hamm . I have also always had a "pride of ownership" which all to often I see lacking these days.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 14 days ago

Thank you Michael Jacobs . It took me a long time to get around to having a family and part of that was that I needed to make sure I was mature enough to raise children. I spent about 40 years being totally selfish... once the kids were born it was time to be totally selfless.

Posted by Bob "RealMan" Timm, Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor (Ward County Notary Services) 14 days ago

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